There is a line I see crossed and trampled on far too often these days. I hear it in the gym when I'm working out, I hear it on the weekends when Im out with the girls and I even hear it on Sunday morning when Im serving at chruch. Women LOVE to talk, that's no secret, so it's no surprise that a wife would openly share what is going on in her life, her family, and inadvertantly share details about her marriage & husband without thinking twice. We are living in a world where people have a tell all mentality and it seems like nothing is off limits, but can I tell you, some things are & rightfully should be. There is still value in intamacy & privacy expecially within a marital relationship.
Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.
(1 peter 4:8 NLT)
There are many things that I believe should be kept between a husband and wife but today I want to talk to you about being a wife who covers her husband, not only in prayer as Im sure you have heard before, but also by protecting his heart & even his character. As a wife you have access to the inner most parts of your husbands heart. There is noone more capeable of protecting or wounding him than you. You have the ability to encourage & build him up but you can also just as quickly tear him down. The bible says that there is life and death in the power of the tongue and I whole heartedly believe that. You may think your jokes are innocent or that it's just harmless girl talk but when we speak of our husband's failures and mistakes we not only develop a lack of respect in our own hearts but we are also shaping his image in the eyes of others. We are speaking life to those areas of weakness and rather than lifting him up and cheering him on it's as if we are sitting on the sidelines (spiritually speaking) watching him sink even deeper in the mud. I can not stress enough how important it is to truly consider your words before you speak them especially when those words are being spoken in a public setting.
The simple definition of a Covering is: a thing that lies on, over, or around something, especially in order to protect or conceal it.
1 Peter says that lovecovers a multitude of sins. I have seen the amazing beauty of what living this out looks like in my own life as well as the life of my friends! I've seen wives cover and protect their husbands from some very difficult situations and through that they emerge stronger than ever. Not only in their relationship with one another but also in their faith and love for God. My husband and I have both made mistakes and had to live with the consequences of our actions, but can I tell you that the outcome was far easier to bare when we were in it together and there to help the other see the silver lining, as opposed to saying "I told you so" or running out to tell our friends. After all, isn't our goal to model the example of Christ and NOT throw stones, but rather prevent others from doing so as well?
There is a difference in covering sin and condoning it. Just because we love and protect our spouse in public does not mean the issues are left unresolved. If you're anything like me, and lean more towards the justice side of things as opposed to mercy, than you may be thinking I'm saying to hide your husband's sin and turn a blind eye. However, that's not what I'm saying at all. Sin definitely needs to be brought to light. The bible calls for us to confess our sins to God and even to one another so that we may be healed (James 5:16). Confession is good, it is healthy, and it can keep us from holding everything in and remaining in darkness. But speaking about these intimate details and personal issues publicly can be a mistake that can cause more harm than good.
At the end of the day I want the world to see my husband for who he really is! An amazing, loving, intelligent, kind, giving, gentle, man of God. It would break my heart if someone ever saw him as anything less because of something I said. He will make mistakes just like I make mistakes (which I do, often). He may have a bad day once in a while and not be in the best mood, he may not put his socks in the hamper even though I've asked a million times, or he may one day struggle with something that's much bigger than laundry and whose turn it is to change the cat's litter box, however He is still every bit of that man that I previously mentioned and I know that God has an incredible plan for him and for us. I want to be in his corner, cheering him on every step of the way.
Protect your husbands, ladies. Even if he isn't where you think he should be yet. You can still call out his strengths and cover him with love and protection in private and especially in public. When you are tempted to talk about the things he does that you once found cute while dating but now find slightly annoying, think about what that is saying about him and about you as well. Make a choice to speak about the good that he does & the potential he has!